How many times did you complain about something today? How often had you wished that you had the power to change your situation to make whatever it was you were complaining about better?
Most of the time, you do. So what’s stopping you?
Sure, a lot of the things you complain about seem to be outside of your control. Maybe you don’t like your boss. Maybe you don’t like the project you’re assigned to, or the people you’re working with. Maybe you don’t like the workspace you have or that your company doesn’t provide free tea or coffee anymore.
The first thing you should ask yourself is “So What?” There was a book called “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” – I think that’s bad advice. Life is holistic: small details make all the difference in the big picture. Don’t be afraid to sweat the small stuff, but ask yourself: Is this thing that’s making you belly-ache so much really that important? Does it prevent you from having as good a life as you would like? If the answer is no to both questions, then drop it. Otherwise…
When viewed at holistically, and not piecemeal, problems are daunting and often outside of our control. But if you examine every angle of the problem, all the little details, you start to see small pieces that you can change.
Fine-tuning the small details can make a world of difference. Focus on the aspects of a problem that you can change, bit by bit, piece by piece, until the big picture looks a little different.
Abraham Lincoln said, “I don’t like that man. I must get to know him better.” Apply this to your less-than-favorite co-workers or that boss you bought the special voodoo doll to use against. Is it the whole package that you don’t like? Maybe it’s the way they chew their food? Or maybe they just said something wrong at the wrong time and the wrong place to set you off. The point is – the little details provide a saving grace – you can change minute bits of the relationship until you either avoid or eliminate the things you didn’t like about that person. Making yourself aware of the details of a situation can only work in your favor.
The time for complaining is gone. The time to solve problems is here. Quit yer bitchin’!